Update - 1.5yrs in
I’ll start my thanking this community for the support over the last year and half as I found it within days of DDay. I don’t post or comment often but I lurk a lot 👀 And the string of similarities makes me feel less alone and the repeated descriptions of the PAs make you realise yours is just the same. I spent the first 10 months post DDay trying to repair - focusing on his words, not his actions and holding so tight to a hope that he would change. It was a very painful period where I doubled down on my own healing and shed so many tears. Then I spent 6 months griefing the end of my almost two decade relationship. And for the past few months I have started to step into the light and coming back to myself. It’s incredibly empowering. I know there is more destruction on its way as we currently live under one roof still as we raise 3 kids and I am sure he will blow that up too when he accepts it’s over and starts to date. But this time I will be as prepared as possible, and know I can navigate whatever may come. I wanted to share for those who are the beginning of their journey to say there is light at the end and whether you’re trying to rebuild or deciding if you should leave, remember the person you should be focused on most is YOU!