I’m rude or his overreacting
We were watching some TV talk shows. My husband is very passionate about pop culture and Hollywood gossip, especially from the 1990s and 2000s. He was showing me Jimmy Fallon’s show and other hosts he likes, and I was asking him questions while he answered enthusiastically.
At one point he said, “Why aren’t you like me? Why aren’t you interested in these topics?” I sighed and replied, “Why do you always have to complain?” He said it absolutely wasn’t meant as criticism, but I told him that a phrase like “why aren’t you…” sounds like criticism to me anyway.
After that, we continued talking normally. I tried to act as if nothing had happened and keep the conversation going, although I realized that I had become irritated quite easily. However, we’ve been coming off a week in which I constantly feel under pressure, as if whatever I do, think, or say is wrong, and I’m finding it increasingly difficult to communicate with him.
At some point he withdrew into himself and went into another room. I followed him and asked if everything was okay. He said yes, but he was clearly sulking. I tried to lighten the mood—I even started dancing a little to the music that was playing on TV—but he remained distant. Then I told him to come over because I had some chocolate for us, but he replied that he didn’t want any.
In the end, I went to him and asked what had happened, because just a little while earlier we had been having fun together. He told me that he doesn’t like the way I immediately become defensive.
I didn’t reply, and that was basically the end of the discussion.
Now what can I do? I wrong or his wrong ? Or both ?