Best Friend of 10 years is Avoidant, I'm Anxious. Now in No Contact. Will things work out?
Hello. Thanks for reading.
I'm an autistic Anxious Attached person who has an online best friend of nearly a decade that is an Avoidant.
Two months ago, my friend who hid a lot of his insecurities couldn't handle my venting and feelings anymore and cut me off entirely, blocking me from all platforms.
Around 20 days ago, we reconnected, confessing our problems and trying to make our friendship work again. We set boundaries. No DMs until he is ready, casual chat in a Discord server.
Since then though, his anxities didn't seem to get much better. He is now dead silent, active only when I announce I go on break to talk to others. And even now, it's silent, probably talking to other people though.
I decided for his sake to pursue No Contact going forward, but I'm not sure if it is too late for us to patch up our friendship. We made a promise to communicate our issues, but he isn't anymore. So I'm left in the dark on what to do to help him, so I have no choice but to be silent for I don't want to break boundaries and pursue him.
Is it too late for us, and we can never be close friends again? Or if there is hope, help me figure out how long should I wait, or is it time to fully let go?