u/Fallance-Irvine

My brother is a nightmare to shop for. No real hobbies, doesn't need anything, and every year I convince myself I'll figure it out and then I don't.

This time I'm going the funny graphic tee route because of his good sense of humor and lives in casual clothes. Problem is I've been scrolling for way too long and the quality gap between a genuinely funny shirt and a horrible one is massive. Some of it are actually hilarious and some of it are just deeply confusing. And I already know what the polite 'oh haha thanks' face looks like so I'd really like to avoid that this time. Anyone ever given one of these as a gift that went over well? Where'd you find it?

I want to start by saying I chose this and I don't regret it. my kid is two and I genuinely love being home with her. this is not a post about wishing I was somewhere else. (im sorry i get this a lot)

but something is happening to me and I can't fully explain it. someone asked me what I do for fun last week and I could not answer. I just kind of laughed it off and changed the subject but afterward I was like... wait. what DO I do for fun? I used to have things. hobbies. opinions. a personality. I used to be a person people would describe as something other than so-and-so's mom. my whole day is just her. which is fine that's the job. but by the time my husband gets home I've spoken to like zero adults and I either word vomit everything at him the second he walks in or I'm so drained I can't even form sentences. there's no in between. I don't think I'm depressed. I'm not sad exactly. I'm just like... muted? like I'm still here but a quieter, blurrier version of myself and I don't know when that happened. didanyone else go through this? did it come back on its own as your kid got older and more independent or did you have to actively rebuild yourself?