last year I got promoted to a position I had been working toward for a long time. my family did a dinner to celebrate. my sister asked if she could say a few words and I said of course.
she stood up and gave a five minute speech that was about seventy percent about her own career journey, how she had been passed over for similar opportunities, how the industry was difficult, and how she hoped things would be easier for her going forward. she mentioned me in maybe two sentences at the start and one at the end.
I pulled her aside afterward and told her that felt like the wrong moment for that. she said she was just sharing and did not think I should be so sensitive about it.
my mom said she was just proud of me in her own way and I should let it go.
I let it go.
last month my sister had her own big career milestone. family dinner, same format, speeches encouraged.
I stood up and announced that my partner and I had just signed a lease on our first home together, something our family knew we had been working toward for two years. I talked about the journey, what it meant to us, how excited we were. I mentioned my sister at the start and the end and spent the middle on my own news.
my sister was furious. my mom said I had made the dinner about myself.
I showed my mom the notes I had kept from my own dinner.
my mom said those were two different situations.
I said they felt pretty similar from where I was standing.
AITA?