How can I (18F) get better at communicating with my girlfriend (18 F)?
Okay so, me (18F) and my gf (18F) have been dating for 3 years and those three years have been filled with ups and downs for both of us, because of each other or our surroundings.
We’ve definitely grown as we both come from backgrounds not so great and have issues because of it.
Anyways, the recent dilemma is that I was just telling her about my day when she stopped responding, I know she was online because we planned to call earlier today and because she was reposting things on tiktok. This isn’t the first time something like this has happened, me having to go investigate if shes actually online or if shes just ignoring me, something she does when shes upset.
I don’t know, I won’t pretend I’ve never done anything hurtful or wrong towards her because I’ve also choosen not to speak to her before when something hurts me. I will say that I only started doing that when I saw thats how she goes about things when shes upset so idk if that affected how I now communicat?
Anyways, later on, I checked her reposts and it was something like ”lack of consideration” or that someone did something that shes expressed before she doesnt like. I’m pretty sure thats about me. I just really want some advice of what to do like I’m all for communication but she never really does it and its like when she does do it, she gives up and thinks I’m going to misinterpret before shes done.
If I did do something she didn’t like , I’ll take full responsibility for that but I can’t be sure because she never says things to me directly. That’s another thing like I drive myself crazy coming up with all these theories on why she might be upset but she rarely ever tells me why she is unless its like days after shes ignored me or whatever.
I’m someone who needs to be told what I’ve done directly because I’m always second guessing myself and I know its better for like me to know when I’ve done something wrong without being told but this isn’t like that. Like I know I’ve done something wrong, I just need confirmation on what that is because I feel like she never tells me.
TLDR: My gf is ignoring me because shes upset with me and won’t tell me whats wrong.