Attractive, interesting, but can’t find a lady friend
I have put an enormous amount of thought and effort into finding a girlfriend. First of all, women throughout my life have told me (or I heard it through the grapevine that they think this) that I am very physically attractive. Freshman year of high school I learned some girls had something of a fistfight because they both liked me; I barely knew them. I hate to sound narcissistic but the fact is this is important context. Now I know physical attractiveness is not the most important thing. I am also a high status man and have been accepted into a very prestigious (top 10 in the US) school where I will work on my PhD. I also play piano every day and compose music, people are generally astonished when I sit down to play and compose a song for them on the spot, completely improvised. I never scroll tiktok or anything like that, probably my worst hobby is playing chess. I also do martial arts competitively and have built a strong friend group of guys there. This has built my integrity, confidence, and made me muscular. I also have several other very cool hobbies but I don’t want to disclose too much personal info. I use Hinge and get matches regularly, and have gone on a few dates this year.
So what’s my point? I just feel like girls don’t appreciate this. it’s like it’s never enough. and let me be clear, I do all these things mostly because I just love doing them, not to try to fit some “perfect man” stereotype. that being said, I do want a good woman, a lovely girl who supports me and makes me feel lucky, and I think I absolutely am more than worthy of that. for example, I met a girl at a party last week. she was very obviously interested in me and wouldnt stop talking to me, was kind of almost leaning against me, her hair kept touching me. she was cute and so I started being flirtatious with her. After a bit of this I left to go talk to some other people but as she was leaving she said bye and we followed each other on instagram. I messaged her about a week later to say it was nice meeting her and asked if she wanted to grab coffee some time. she never responded. now I get that “it’s a numbers game dude” and blah blah blah but seriously if I was that girl I would be STARVING for a man like me. I’m dedicated, hot, interesting, and funny. Like, girls should be going way out of their way to have a CHANCE to go on a date with me. They just seem so apathetic, so too-cool-for-school, like putting in a modicum of effort into something is like, mega lame, bro. Honestly I can’t help but have feelings of resentment toward our modern culture creeping in, but I actually feel confident I will eventually find a good woman. I just will never understand why it seems so hard.
Your thoughts?