Break up advice, toxic ex and friends
Back story: I got into a relationship with my gf through a mutual friend. My gf was a hairdresser and my friend went to see her as a client.
I went to get my hair cut by my gf and we instantly hit it off. Great chemistry and quickly got into a relationship.
Cracks started to show in the first few months. My gf had cptsd/potential DID and she had traumas she wasn't able to share with me. I was finding it hard to communicate with her and felt like it was easier to ignore.
One day, she was extremely triggered. Asked to be dropped home and shut me out completely. I am anxiously attached and it didn't work well for me. So I naturally made her need for space my problem. We worked through it a little and continued the relationship. She moved in around the 5 month mark but was very avoidant, we had separate rooms and I handled most of the move. I naturally did most of the things, helping her with her start up business etc.
During us living together she picked up on issues and we werent able to get anywhere. She confided in the mutual friend who is a 'therapist'. My gf would come back from these chats exhausted, upset and never really disclose what happened in these chats. I was in the dark, I asked my gf to stop running to her and the friend to stay out of it which wasn't received well. I ended up leaning into it and also confiding into this friend. Mentioning that the DID diagnosis was difficult. I felt like my gf didn't have personalities as such but personality traits that I didn't recognize. I also sat and had to clear up things id said about this friend to my gf as I don't trust the friend entirely.
A few months down the line we break up, the bottom line was we were going round in circles and unhappy. My ex found lots of faults in me and said she has no capacity for them or the change. During the break up, there was limited communication, my ex didn't speak to me, moved out and my friend helped. On the day of the move, my ex wanted to take something from my room which was hers but had all my stuff in and I asked if she could wait so I could handle my own things. Not come home to my stuff everywhere. This was a childhood trigger and I asked for it to not be crossed.
We're a month now of no contact. I went to meet up with my ex and she was cold. Blunt and wanted an apology for something but didn't say what.
I now know it's for me talking about the DID to the friend who has told my ex that's the reason why our relationship didn't work and I said that there were 5 personalities.
I haven't been asked my side of things. These friends are all I have and im so far away from home. My ex hasnt wanted to know my side. What do I do.