A Dr. K Video that stuck to me
During the toughest times in my life, I keep coming back to this video. It's not Dr. K's most-viewed video, and I think part of the reason is that it doesn't really announce itself or hand you the takeaway up front. The weight of it lives in the ending. The last thing he says is what sticks with you, and it's the line I find myself coming back to when I feel like I have no control over my life.
That said, if you're reading this and you're thinking about watching, please don't skip ahead to that part. I know the temptation, especially when someone tells you the ending is the important bit, but reading it cold or hearing it out of context strips it of everything that makes it land. The final line only carries the weight it does because of everything he builds toward in the rest of the video. You have to sit with the whole thing first. It's something you arrive at, not something you're handed, and the reflection that comes after the video is honestly where most of the value is for me.
I was at a period in my life where I would be miserable all day. Procrastination, exams were coming up, I was a perfectionist (still am, but I'm aware of it). I would watch every Dr. K video, scrolling down to find the one while I lay in bed. I'd make my computer shut down based on the video's length and listen to them entirely. I think I was like top 1% viewer on YouTube or whatever. It was actually a problem, because I wasn't solving my root issues, I was kind of just replacing them with consumable content to make myself feel more hopeful. While it's not a good idea to binge-watch self-help videos (even Dr. K has said this, I can't find the video specifically, he did do a newer one on like "stop watching even this shit, go do the thing," but it was in an older video), anyway, what I'm getting at is it actually did help me in away. I've heard so many insightful things from Dr. K, and it's helped me become a better observer of not only social situations but also my internal environment. The only issue I still have is ignoring my observations and bluntly distracting myself from peace. But hopefully one day I'll get there. Being told how to do something doesn't mean you'll actually do it, but I guess it's still helpful to know.
Kind of relevant, kind of not. I just came back from watching the Jubilee video, and the Lemar part actually makes me sad. I have hope for him, and I know Dr. K does too. It's something Dr. K even points out in the video I put above, as well as the philosophy he kind of talks about. He can't save his patients, he can't determine whether they are mystically solved by the universe, he can't resolve anyones depression, but he can try his best. Lemar can constantly live in the world avoiding all potential happiness and giving up, but ultimately you kind of need to want to be helped. Might be wrong, anyways thanks for reading if you have!