Caught my boyfriend’s secret TikTok account / Should I uninstall Life360 and let go?
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My boyfriend has cheated on me more times than I can count. I know it sounds foolish to stay in such a toxic relationship, but I did. I kept forgiving him because I loved him and hoped he would change. Every time I caught him, even just flirting on social media, I gave forgiveness again. But each time, I felt myself growing numb, like I was slowly losing the ability to care and just accepting that this is who he is.
The truth is, I still love him, but not the person he is now. I think I only love the version of him I first knew.
Just recently, I discovered his hidden TikTok dump account. I saw him liking posts of someone I know are his “type” and even messaging them “Hi crush.” What surprised me was my reaction. Instead of exploding like before, I just laughed bitterly, felt annoyed, and shook with anger, but I didn’t go crazy. Maybe my body has finally accepted that this is just how he is.
Whenever I confront him about things like this, he tells me it’s just my insecurities and that I shouldn’t be jealous. But the attention he gives to others online, the flirty messages, the gaslighting, it all proves how manipulative he is.
I’ve wasted almost three years tolerating his behavior. I’m scared to start over, but I realize it’s even scarier to stay in a relationship like this. It still hurts, but I feel like there’s nothing more I can do.
Here’s my dilemma. He doesn’t know I have access to that TikTok account. We also use Life360, and I’ve asked him to uninstall it, but he refuses. Should I be the one to uninstall it first? I don’t want to feel like I have to monitor him anymore. I want to free him to do whatever he wants, and I want the same freedom for myself. By the way, we live together right now.
I’m confused and exhausted. What do you think I should do?