u/Famous_Chair_2233

I feel wildly unsupported right now. I have never really cared about online “cheating”. It doesn’t feel like cheating to me if it never leaves the screen and isn’t emotional. In this day and age most young adult men grew up watching insane porn that nobody can sustainably keep up with so it genuinely does not bother me if he interacts with women online once or twice. Genuinely I have no feelings about it. That being said it makes this even more confusing and difficult.

He asked a girl in my friend group who is notorious for loving the attention of taken men and having the biggest mouth ever. Is he stupid? Obviously. She immediately called me and told me. She and I then got into it because she accused me of taking his side and turning it around on her and threw it in my face that “my husband was asking her for nudes”. She called me the moment I sat down at work and was hysterically crying about how upset it made her and how I couldn’t understand how hard this was for her and how much she values our friendship and I snapped at her for choosing the worst possible time and way to bring this to my attention. Now she’s going to spread my business like wildfire and play the victim like I got mad at her for my husbands infidelity. Because yes, this one was personal.

I want to just move on. Part of me doesn’t give a shit. It doesn’t make me feel less about myself and it doesn’t make me feel like he doesn’t want to be with me either. Part of me feels the insane disrespect. I told him to go to therapy for this sexual need bullshit bc it’s not normal to need something so badly you destroy all of your wife’s friendships.

I always knew this about him, I love him despite his flaws and I understand where they come from. He’s a good husband otherwise. And with the kids and the fact that he’s the breadwinner it’s not so easy to just pick up and go. I tried to explain that to her, because she acted like I wasn’t upset enough. That’s it’s not the same as a casual relationship break up. I’m just so unsupported right now. I want to be able to work on my marriage and attempt to forgive. I’ve given myself a time frame and if I just can’t get past it I’ll take next steps and it really depends on if he will get himself together. I just need some assurance that prioritizing my marriage is the right thing to do here.

PS. I am not upset about the fight with this girl. The fact that she threw it right back in my face tells me she was never on my side. I’m just worried my other friends won’t understand even though they’ve been through infidelity in thier marriages and sometimes worse.

Thinking of buying a home, it’s not super functionally laid out. Has a lot of pros, but it seems like the previous owners just had an add on field day. Both bedrooms have outside access doors, there’s another room they were using as a bedroom but it’s really just another add on and also has an access door to the garage. Previous buyers who backed out and agents have all mentioned the odd layout.

If we were to go in and do all the other necessary cosmetic repairs AND change the layout would this have any effect on resell value? Basically is it worth it to change hallways and door positions. Happy to do it, but not wanting to walk into an unsellable money pit. If we only did cosmetic repairs would the layout bite us in the end when going to resell?

In love with an older home that has many pros to buying.

A con- which has also been mentioned by previous buyers who backed out- is that the home has a really non functional lay out. We aren’t really very bothered by this but are worried about the resell value since this isn’t going to be our forever home anyways.

Looking for informed opinions or really any opinions at all, one thing that bothers me most is that both bedrooms have an outside access door. Bear with me here….one bedroom connects to a sunroom. The sunroom has additional door to enter not through the bedroom. Thinking of just taking that door in the bedroom out and walling it up. The other bedroom has a door to a side patio. This is the only door to access the side patio other than an outside gate entrance. Thinking of adding a Sheetrock partition wall to extend the hallway past that door making it a hallway exit rather than a bedroom exit and reframing a new door to the bedroom.

While these repairs would make it more functional for us, do we think they’ll make a huge difference on future resell value?

To make a long story short, I’ve really struggled with weight even while being on the compounded tirzepatide. I recently decided to “re-lock in” again and all the sudden my feed everywhere is people talking smack on glp1 users for being lazy. It makes me feel lazy…and honestly hopeless and fat. I’m so sick of the calories in calories out bs. Some people, seemingly a lot of women, just cannot get the pounds off! I have a metabolic issue. My daily maintenance calories are so low. A deficit big enough to make a difference is just not healthy nor sustainable. And then they tell you to work out more…how can i effectively do that when i am starving to the point of no energy.

While there are pros and cons to being on this, and once I hit my goal I will be looking into other prescribed options, without it i was at the point where being invited to dinner made me cry because i knew id gain weight. It has made weight loss feel possible again, like all my hard work actually amounts to something.