More family living together under one roof … help!
I’ll be honest with you. I wrote a lot about the history with my husbands family and having lived here with his parents for 8 years with him and our daughter and all the crap that his toxic parents have put themselves and us through but I think I’ll just generally cut to the chase:
My 2 single brother in laws had told their mother that they couldn’t afford their apartment anymore so they were going to move somewhere else, farther away. And so my mother in law told them to both come live here. Now I know I sound like a baby but I do pay rent and help with the utilities and in the beginning did EVERYTHING my mother in law asked me to so I feel like after 8 years I could at least have a discussion with my mother in law in this decision especially because they have a cat which me and my daughter are very allergic to. But when my husband started the conversation all she could say was you guys can figure it out. Now I love his brothers but I haven’t had a day of privacy in 8 years and despite the crap that I’ve been through with this family I do everything I can for them and I just feel like them being here is going to absolutely make me hate them. I just feel invisible and just plain disrespected in this house, no one cares to talk to me about anything and it sucks.
Move out - I know that’s so easy to say but we live in the Bay Area. It really is expensive here. We tried to low income housing but turns out with both me and my husbands pay despite being very low we do not qualify for it so the only choice is getting more than one job for each of us and never getting to see our daughter to pay for even a studio for us or move out of state which we are planning to do NEXT YEAR … but until then I feel like I am overwhelmed and sad and pissed and just feeling a lot of hatred for this house and pretty much my husbands parents/mother in law. I don’t know what to do until we move out next year I feel like I might just break .. please help. What should I do until then?!?! I’ve done therapy in the past and saw a psychiatrist, both ate away our savings 😩 and tried hobbies but working 40+ hours a week with a 7 year old I just can’t seem to find anytime for hobbies … but I’m going crazy in this house and now two more people will be living here I just … what do I do with these emotions?!?!?!?!?!
There is a lot more to this but I don’t think I can write it all without crying lol just tell me what you would do cuz I’m stuck …