u/Far-Worldliness-4796

I love it, feels like a hug... I then realized its basically a mini saddle and got all giddy. Yay for medical devices feeling like home.

My (38m) partner (33m) (I'll call him M) and I are both disabled and live together in a rent-controlled apartment. Because neither of us can work full time, we rely on disability income plus help from family to cover rent. M's father (wealthy, millionaire level) pays $1000/month out of M's trust, and my mom (fixed income) contributes $400. I cover the rest of our bills with my disability money. It's tight but we manage.

M's disability requires weekly individual therapy and group therapy, this is documented in writing by his doctors. His father initially said he'd deduct therapy costs from the rent contribution, which would have made things even harder financially.

Eventually M's father and stepmother attended a family therapy session. Things seemed to go okay; father agreed to keep paying the $1000. He did push for my mom to pay more, which felt off given his financial situation, but we moved forward.

Then M went to pick up the check. That's when the stepmother told him that his therapist had said he should be in a group home because of his low IQ.

This was a complete lie. Not only did the therapist never say this... what the therapist actually documented was that M needs financial support due to his disabilities. That's the opposite of what she claimed.

On top of that, the stepmother also told M that his eating disorder specialist had him eating too much (three meals and two snacks a day) and that our grocery bill reflected that. M has anorexia. That comment caused a real setback in his recovery.

In that same conversation, both the father and stepmother told M that the reason he was still sick and that therapy wasn't working was because he wasn't praying enough.

This is a man who is actively engaged in treatment, following his care plan, and working hard every day on his recovery. Their conclusion is that he just needs more prayer.

Now M's grandmother is pressuring him to forgive the stepmother. M is angry and hurt, and honestly I'm furious on his behalf.

What do we do?

*Is there any recourse for someone lying about what a therapist said?

*How do we handle a father who controls trust funds but actively undermines treatment?

*How do we push back on family members who blame illness on lack of faith?

*How do we handle the pressure to forgive on someone else's timeline?