How to cut off parents slowly?
I 27(F) want to cut off my parents, who were quite abusive in my childhood. It was a deeply disturbing childhood, and I ended up leaving at 23. It has been many years since I lived with them. I have tried blocking them, and multiple times they end up contacting other people who know me. Blocking them has been a nightmare in terms of them getting very aggressive through other people, or sending threats.
Luckily, last year I ended up moving and did not tell them the address. I have also started resorting to grey rocking, making up excuses why I can’t show up places (they won’t take no for an answer), and muting them. This seems to work as a one word answer is all they need for fuel to last a month.
I’m wondering how to cut them off slowly, so that when I do block them they don’t end up harassing me?
Also, is there any tips on how to deal with loneliness of losing the entire village as a result of cutting them off? Cutting my parents off means also cutting off my relatives as a byproduct. This is not the end of the world, I like to be alone as an introvert, but a part of me worries if I ever fall on hard times who would I go to. I come from an Asian culture where big families support each other in hard times so it’s a foreign concept to me. My support network is quite small, and most of my friends are still figuring out life. While I’m doing ok right now and know of ways to be ok in hard times, it’s always in the back of my mind irrationally as a reason to keep the village.