AITA for being offended at SO tirade and subsequent actions?
Me: (34 F) SO: (37 M) My grandmother died and I wanted to attend her funeral. I offered to take all 3 of our kids with me. My SO insisted that he could manage the kids for the weekend and helped me book less expensive flights and figure out logistics. I went to the funeral. While I was there an unexpected amount of snow showed up back home. My SO insisted that I try to change my flight, but there were no available options. He yelled at me over the phone because the schools had cancelled and he was supposed to start a new job that week and didn't think he should have to miss a day to be with the kids. I took the redeye portion of my trip to Charlotte and then worked on another flight home. I ended up getting a flight for later the same day arriving at a closer airport. (His work cancelled too, so nobody actually had to go in and he didn't miss anything.) After we got home, he chewed me out for over 2 hours because I "was being inconsiderate" and he "couldn't start the new job on a bad foot" and how dare I leave him with the kids for so long, etc.
I don't understand why he is so angry. He volunteered to watch the kids. He didn't miss any work, no reputation was harmed and instead of picking me up at 6:30 AM at an airport 40 miles away he only had to drive 7 miles in the snow at 3:00 PM. AITA for going to my grandmother's funeral, not taking the kids with me and being offended at the berating he gave me when I got home?
One month later I found out that my dad, who I am very close to, is dying of cancer. I told SO the information and approached him with my arms out hoping for a hug and some comfort. He was still so angry at me that he pulled away and refused to provide any comfort. Is what I did really so bad that I deserved that? AITA?