when do i know if im ready to be with someone knew or if im just distracting myself?
tl;dr met someone new after ending a long relationship. don’t know when to figure out if i’m ready or distracting myself.
i’ve (22F) recently ended a 4 year relationship with a LD partner (23M) over emotional cheating. it’s been 8 months since i ended our relationship but we only completely stopped speaking since the 1st of may (he would check up on me every few days im assuming he thought id forgive him this time and move on but eventually i gave him a final answer that we weren’t going to work). i ended up meeting someone 2 months ago and find him very attractive and really want to get to know him. i just don’t know when is the right time to start getting to know people after a long relationship and i can’t tell if it’s because i want to distract myself even though i felt fine on my own before i met this new person.
i’m rlly interested in this person but im scared that once we actually get to know each other ill push him away since its so close to when i ended my previous relationship. even accepting men‘s requests on insta makes me feel so guilty.
i don’t want to rush into it but i don’t want to take too long that it might ruin the chances of me getting to know someone else im interested in.
any advice?