u/Far_Country3681

What do you think causes a particular person to become an FP? Is it looks, humour, personality traits, money, selflessness, weakness, attention, romantic interest, envy or all of the above? I highly doubt it’s one particular trait that you need to possess to sadly become an FP but I feel like there must be something that separates you from just being another pawn to becoming an FP. Would be interesting to hear everyone’s opinions

As easy as it can be to feel angry, hurt, bitter and betrayed by their disgusting and despicable behaviour towards you just remember… all of the hurtful things they say and do is all a reflection of how they truly feel about themselves. Sure, their grandiose persona can be confusing but of course it is deceiving. The whole basis of this disorder is self loathing, guilt and shame, something they wake up and feel every single day. Of course they have periods of happiness but deep to the core, they despise themselves. Something the majority of us will never be able to fully understand. Yes it’s sad that their disorder is a product of abuse and neglect but I’m afraid that’s something we can’t do anything about or fix. Nothing will fix it because there are structural differences in the cortex’s of their brain that wasn’t caused by us, but caused by their upbringing. I’m not saying this excuses their behaviours in any way but their brains simply are not wired right. They will live their whole life with this brain, intense continuous therapy might help them soften their self destructive behaviours but it will never remove the true core of their being which I’m afraid to say is sadness, desperation and a never ending pit of despair. Be thankful that you can move forward with your life, you can find true joy again, you can shine bright again. Sadly they will never experience this, if they do, it will be meaningless in the long run and superficial. Nothing will ever fill that bottomless pit inside of them, they will never have a true stable identity, they will never experience true lasting love. Which is something we all need to get through this life. We all just had the misfortune of experiencing them, they had the pleasure of knowing us.