I [18M] want to break up with my [18F] girlfriend without it ruining my life
Me M18 and my girlfriend F18 have been in a relationship since we were 15-16, im very thankful for this relationship and I truly feel like we match. The only thing is there are some problems I have personally with my girlfriend to the extent that I dont feel like I want to continue this relationship and keep being with her.
I have broken up with her before a year ago but when I did she came to my house at night without asking me or letting me know, she would call me on no caller id or make her friends call me all day. She would ask people I know to send specific photos to me to try and make me jealous or something I dont really know. And the thing that fucked me up the most is that she would send me photos of my name freshly cut into her arm and I felt so bad that I made her do that like obviously I dont want her to do that so looking back on it it feels manipulative idk.
Fast forward a few months and we are back together but now another like 5-6 months later I want to break it off again. I dont see any future with this woman. But im scared and I feel bad, I dont want this situation to repeat itself she genuinely needs therapy if the things that she said happened in her chilhood actually did happen. I cannot deal with that I dont want to but thats why I feel bad, I just want a normal girlfriend without any trauma and that feels so selfish and at the same time I dont want to leave her and abandon her. I dont know how to break up with her and im scared that the situation from a year ago repeats itself. Has anyone ever had a similar experience and how did you resolve it?