u/Far_Milk_2610

I feel like the texting rules may be out dated since times are changing but I am not sure so I have been sticking to the book.

I have been trying to get back with my ex, following the 7 principals(I was the dumper) and hurt her. We had an amazing first date - hung out, had fun and hooked up.

We both have our kids for 7 days on, 7 days off at the same time so there is never a chance to see each other during those times as of right now. It was different before when we were together, she would come over as her kids are much older than mine.

We made plans for today 11 days ago, fully laid out as the book says - I am picking her up at this time, on this date etc and she confirmed. She then said, have a good week with your boys.

We haven't spoken since when we made plans. I figured since I hurt her, and we had a good time, I am giving her the space she needs to heal and remember the good time we had on our last date.

If I was seeing her every week like when I didn't have kids when I was younger, it wouldn't be an issue, but we go almost 2 weeks without talking so it's a bit of a different scenario and something I am trying to get used to.

What are your thoughts on this scenario?

After typing this all out, I realized that I would not be following the book by texting her again to reach out or confirm. She can do that in this scenario as me texting her is just me being needy.

So I posted not too long ago about trying to get back with my ex (link below) and so far it's gone well...

https://www.reddit.com/r/CoreyWayne/s/Ez71TiUkll

She called me the next evening to say she had a great time, and that she didn't beat herself up over sleeping with me as she thought she would. She also said she has concerns that we will fall back into the same trap and use sex to mask our issues, I said I understand that and I also don't want to do fall back into that trap. I then said, us having sex last night felt very natural, and the fun we had and tension we built up throughout the evening is what that was for me.

I said I was going to wait a few more days to reach out for her to process everything since it's been so intense for her, but since we're here, I would love to see you again, when are you free(We both have kids 1 week on, 1 week off at the same time)

So she told me the hours on Saturday she's available, and free all day Sunday. I told her I can't do that weekend as I'm doing a 2 day motorcycle ride, and it would need to be during the week. This is where I over thought things - for some strange reason, I said I need to check my calendar for the Monday - Friday and I would get back to her, then I said check your schedule and let me know? Like why would I say that.

Anyways, that phone call was on Wednesday, I texted her this morning(Saturday) saying I sorted out my calendar and suggested a date range, no response yet.

Am I over thinking or did I seem like I brushed her off taking 2 days to get back to her?

Ran into my ex who I dumped a few months prior. I realized shortly after I fucked up and things got messy and we ended in no contact.

I ran into her this evening at the sauna and apologized for my actions and said I was a complete dick head I did not consider her feelings whatsoever along more detailed things that applied.

We ended up chatting for over an hour, chatting about what happened and how we are both starting to take care of ourselves, something that we both stopped doing and became too obsessed with each other, all the while having lighthearted fun conversations. While we were talking she offered me some motorcycle gloves that she has and a book that she thinks I will really like,

Judging by that I figured now is the time to ask for her back, I said that I would like to try and work things out with you again as we both know what went wrong and what we need to do going forwards and that i screwed it up. She was unsure and I said you don't have to make a decision now, but if you do want to entertain this, reach out to me. She then said, what the ball is in my court now!? I stated that I'm not going to contact you every month asking if you are ready to date jokingly.

Then she said what if we just hang out and talk, I immediately said I'm not interested in being friends with you, I can only see myself dating you and that's it. She was thrown off by that, it actually felt great to say that to her.

I then said I need to go as I'm getting tired I need to go to bed, I said you look great and then gave her a hug. She grabbed on to me very hard and wouldn't let go, and then she said while hugging me, it's okay, to which I said I know! I don't know why she said that.

Now the ball is in her court.

For some reason I feel like I shouldn't have hugged her, other than that how do you guys think I did?

UPDATE

She reached out, she has a laundry list of questions she wants me to answer to resolve the things I said that weren't nice before she considers dating me. We're meeting tomorrow. I'm meeting her at the park and bringing a blanket, something chill and low pressure, I booked a reso at the restaurant a few minutes away after. I plan to keep it light hearted and fun

UPDATE 2

The meeting went well today, I owned up to my mistakes and how it hurt her and kept it short. She had some questions that I answered and then moved on to light-hearted conversation. Eventually she asked me if I was to describe her to other people what would I say, I said she's very selfless, caring, fucking hilarious and has a great pair of tits. She laughed and then came over and hugged me and then we laid down and cuddled and chatted more. Then I said I'm fucking starving and that I made dinner reservations for two LOL. She said this isn't a date though, I said maybe not for you but for me it is, you're welcome to join me otherwise I'm going myself. She laughed and came along, we had dinner and I had a great time, took her back to her vehicle to say our good byes, and gave her a hug and that's when she started making out with me, that led to going into her vehicle and us making out more until we eventually had sex. If this isn't proof that Corey Wayne shit works, then I don't know what is.