After 9 years I (25 M) was broken up with by my girlfriend
Backstory we had 2 incidents where she was emotionally cheating, mainly texting and even once sent nudes during it and because of this I had lost some trust but still had forgave her.
Sorry this is a first time post for me and felt like a good way to clear my head. Sadly this has happened in the last day or so and my head was thrown for a loop. I was with this girl since high school and we had been through a lot of ups and downs throughout our relationship. Because of that and us making it through it I believed the she may have been the one, and we had talks of marriage and a family. Suddenly she started hanging out a lot more with her male co-worker after work. She gets out late so her being out for say maybe 1-2 hours means she’s home in the AM hours. So I had felt uncomfortable and told her how I felt. She ended up flipping it on me and telling me I never trust her. After we talked for the night, I went to grab her from work where I saw her with the guy in his car, even after our talk. Once she got out and we got home she ended up telling me a variety of things like how she out grew me, she wasn’t happy, and a couple other things that she had never once told me before now. She said she wanted to breakup and be apart for a while, maybe getting back together. We lived together for so long now almost 8 out of those 9 years that breaking up feels so strange to me, almost like it isn’t real even though I know it is. Im hoping she thinks it over and we get back together, but I also know looking back at the past maybe we shouldn’t. However I feel totally alone, a lot of my friends are her friends I met and I have no one that I feel I can safely talk to about this without anything going back to her.
Hence why I’m here, I’d love some perspective on this from the outside.