The Slow Fade: Dealing with a sudden drop in energy
Disclaimer this is Ai drafted the English because I am not an English native.
II’m looking for some perspective on a situation that’s gone from high-energy to ice-cold in a matter of days.
The Background:
I’ve been talking to a girl I have a crush on for about 4 months. We met on a language exchange app, but the chemistry was there early on, so we moved to Instagram. She’s 34 (Russian, living in Dubai), and I’m 27 living in a different country. For the first few months, it was great—she’d reply within minutes, remembered small details about my life, and the vibe was consistently flirty.
The Turning Point:
Recently, we were having a great conversation, and I made a comment about how "I like having her as my teacher." Context: We actually haven’t practiced languages in over a month, and she never seemed that serious about the "learning" aspect anyway.
Ever since that comment, everything changed. She immediately started asking me to "send her homework" (which she obviously didn't check), and then she flaked on a phone call we had scheduled yesterday.
The Current State:
The "silent treatment" is real. She went from replying in minutes to taking 15–17 hours to send a text—if she replies at all. When she does, the messages are dry, short, and the flirtiness is completely gone. It feels like I’m pulling teeth just to keep a basic conversation moving.
The Reality Check:
I’m trying to be practical about this. With a 7-year age gap and the fact that we live in different countries, I know this is a "long shot" at best. Part of me thinks it’s unrealistic, but another part of me really misses the connection we had just a week ago.