Thank you very much for helping me.
I posted this question a while ago. The feedback that I received, braced me for the moment that many people spoke about.
"Be prepared."
I wasn't ready, and anger struck when my brother finally asked if she could stay.
His girlfriend humiliated him, cheated on him, and reported him for harassment at the place where they work. And when she was pregnant, her and the person who she cheated with, rubbed it in his face every day.
My brother was broken. His work colleagues, friends, family members, everyone supported him. And now, he's angry with many of us because he can't understand why we're still angry with her.
He's mainly angry with me and my sister. My mother has forgiven his girlfriend, and is willing to have her in our home.
His girlfriend recently told my brother that our mum is easy, or something along those lines. I also struggle with my memory. And, I have learning difficulties. But, I understand that it was a cheeky statement, not related to the situation. Or, was it?
I don't trust her.
I live at home. My mother looks after me. My siblings also live at home. They help, and they look after my mother.
I struggle with my mental health, because I struggle to cope with my disabilities, and some of the other challenges in my life.
When I received the message from my brother in our family chat, I was shaking. I have tremors and seizures, which can be triggered by my emotions, stress, anger, etc.
I read the screenshots of everyone's advice, and they kept me calm enough to respond.
My counsellor advised me to make my decision quickly, because of the stress that it was causing me.
But a kind stranger here also told me.
"You're not the asshole. Your feelings are valid. Trauma and hurt take time to process, and it is completely normal to feel anger, discomfort, or anxiety when someone who caused harm is reentering your life and your home. Wanting space for your own mental and physical wellbeing does not make you unreasonable. It's okay to set boundaries, communicate honestly with your family and take time before fully accepting this person in your home. Healing doesn't have a timeline, and your discomfort doesn't make you a bad sibling or a bad person."
This comment really helped!
When we make decisions, we all have to agree, because we all live together.
Even though my brother and my mother agree with each other, me or my sister's decision will decide what happens.
I explained to my brother that, how his girlfriend treated him was painful to see, and hear about. And, it may take me a while to forgive her. I told him how uncomfortable I would feel with her in our home. I also let him know that, despite my feelings towards his girlfriend, I want him to be happy.
I felt guilty afterwards. I've felt bad for a couple of days. I was in such a good place, too.
My mother seemed angry with me. And apparently, my brother was upset. This was something that I was warned about.
"Don't feel guilty."
Last night, I received some helpful words from another family member.
"Don't let it disturb your peace."
And I feel much better today.
Today, I was told that when my brother's girlfriend does come back into our home, and our lives, my sister will be staying with my uncle when she's here.
"Tell your sister to take her with you."
Similar words were spoken, but I can't remember them.
This morning, I told my sister that she doesn't have to go anywhere. I don't think anybody should allow us to feel uncomfortable in our own home.
Her decision will decide what happens next.
My brother may or may not appear in the comments section. I told my family about my last post.