I (M22) am single and have been trying to find someone since I got dumped a year ago. My friend sent this girl (F22) that’s in his gf’s college class my Snapchat and we started talking. She is attractive and meets most of my criteria for a partner but she has become borderline obsessed with me and it’s kind of scaring me a little bit.
Despite never hearing my voice or never doing anything beyond texting, she texts nonstop, replies instantly 24/7, is basically begging me to give her a chance and how she will marry me someday. She told me within the first few texts where she is from which is over 2 hours from me, so as someone against long distance, I said it would probably be difficult to make romance work. She countered by saying she loves driving and will drive here every weekend and get a hotel to stay in (highly unrealistic long term in my opinion). I wasn’t feeling it so I started to distance myself a little bit which led to her writing over 1000 words about how I should just give her a chance and that shes been crying about me all day.
At this point I’ve been clear and told her that we could be friends (with benefits) for a while and see how we work as friends and she is ok with that but obviously she is still trying to get a relationship out of it. She’s hell bent on driving down here to immediately suck my dick and then have me eat her out. It’s been talked about every night for a week.
Also complicating matters is that my most recent ex and I have started to slowly rekindle our friendship (started prior to obsessed girl coming into the picture). She is someone I truly do love and would want to be back in a relationship with (right person wrong time situation) as we are basically opposite gender versions of each other. But there’s issues there too as we are both likely a little on the spectrum and she has some chronic health issues that hinder our relationship a little bit.
I don’t know what to do. I like the attention as someone who has always struggled with girls but I also feel smothered and don’t want to ruin reconciliation chances with someone I truly do love. Any advice is well appreciated.