How is it parenting with someone who has BPD?
I can already see some major issues surfacing with our kid and my BPD. For one ... she's not really doing anything. At least not in any capacity i can say is even min to moderate effort. Importantly she is parentifying our kid at an early age which is not good. She got done talking to family members and they all unanimously agreed i need to do more. This is me, the guy who makes all the money, has zero expectations of her, pretty much cleans up after her when i can, takes care of the kik 75% of the time. But their issue is sometimes i dont do certain house chores and i shouldnt expect my poor BPD to do them. The same woman who essentially sits on the couch all day, snacks all day, and does close to nothing. That same woman is apparently oh so overworked the idea of having to lift a finger for someone else is making her have anxiety. I dont even understand how, outside my BPD blatantly lying anyone came to that conclusion. She probably did what she always does, blatantly ignored everyone else's efforts, focusing on what she does, maximizing her efforts, and completely ignoring other people. Sometimes i like to remind her i pay bills and rents, and she has a deer in the headlights face, as if she just assumes she was paying these things ...