u/Farmerlynda

Filed April 2. Got state refund (CA) a few days later. I check “Where’s my refund” every day — every day, it simply says “return received,” and “it is being processed.”

I’ve read through a number of posts on this sub about transcripts; I don’t have a transcript available for 2025, only 2024 and earlier. So I have no clue what’s going on or why it’s taking so long.

We purposefully overpaid (didn’t take any withholding allowances) so we are owed a sizable refund. Now it’s starting to feel like we’ll never get our own money back…

Who’s still waiting, and how long have you been waiting? If you got your refund after an unexplained delay, how long did it take? (And did you do anything like contact a taxpayer advocate, Congressional rep, etc?)

I coach U8 and have U14 and U12 daughters. For some context both of my daughters are lighter weight than most of the players they play against, neither has gone fully through puberty and they’re playing against girls who have. Both daughters played against teams that were very illegally physical this weekend. The general ref consensus in our area seems to be that unless someone shoves you to the ground inside the box when you are about to score, they’re not going to call it.

I’m not talking about shoulder blocking or even aggressive arm positioning (elbows out) — I’m talking about grabbing and holding an opponent’s arm to hold them in place or pull them back, or straight-up pushing (where the player starts with their hands close to their body and ends with their arms fully extended, having shoved the other player off-course). The pushing happened on the way to the ball, while on the ball, and even in the backfield far away from the action, just for fun.

My daughters were really frustrated after the game because they couldn’t play as well as they normally do because they were literally shoved off course for half the plays. I’m not sure what the best coaching response is. What should I suggest they do… Shove back? Flop? Tell off the other player? Shout “stop pushing me” to get the attention of the ref? Shoulder blocking doesn’t seem to work because they were shoved off course before they could make shoulder-to-shoulder contact.

It sucks because when refs don’t call it early, it escalates. Both games ended up with multiple players injured and in tears (a couple of our toughest players too.)

Suggestions welcome!