I have a crush on someone who is lithromantic.
Hi all! I hope it's okay that I ask this question and if it's not, obviously feel free to delete my post, I'm just very lost on where to go from here. I've known my best friend (let's call him Ivy) for about 2 years now and it's been a wonderful journey, we got close incredibly fast and we've pretty much been inseparable since then. Around last November (2025) I had a crisis because I thought I liked him, and my other friend (we'll call her Mimi) pretty much almost immediately tried to talk me into thinking otherwise because he was (is) aroace. I let it go after that because I was embarrassed for even remotely thinking like that.
Fast forward toward the middle of July (2026), I had a falling out with someone I was talking to and afterwards it somehow made me realize that I have feelings for Ivy (and then some other things but this is when i really realized my feelings for him.) Of course, with this, I go to Mimi because she's my second closest friend, and she once again (basically) tells me that I should try to shut them out again because Ivy is aroace.
This time I REALLY cannot ignore them. I have tried really hard to shut them down and forget about them, but I really really cannot. I'm humiliated and I don't want to feel this way because of the fact that he's lithromantic. He said once that he wanted to try to step out of his comfort zone and go past his boundaries when it comes to being lithromantic but I don't know if he really meant that or if that's what he really wants.
I feel horrible for keeping this from him because I don't keep things from him but I'm so concerned that if I tell him how I feel, it'll ruin our friendship and I really don't want that, because he's my best friend. I'm just really conflicted and it's slowly eating at me everyday. So, I would really appreciate or input on all of this.
Should I tell him and be honest or should I keep it to myself and hope it fizzles out eventually?
(Not proofread, if something doesn't make sense I apologize. Thank you for reading!)