u/FeedHaunting591

hi, i unfortunately will probably get dismissed from school. we are at the end of didactic year. barley made the cut off. i find out for sure though in a few weeks. i can rejoin the next year's cohort, which starts in a few months.

my question is, should i restart or do something else? tuition in total is 100k, so starting over would put me in 150k debt. an additional 50k for failing.

ik most people in this situation go to nursing, but to be clear, i do NOT want to be a nurse. nothing personal, i just do not align with nursing. please do not convince me of that or comment on this topic.

another thing is it was not my study methods. the class i failed was due to personal reasons, not my lack of intelligence or study methods. it is just one portion, but regards came to bite me back. don't want to give too much info on here, if you have questions u can DM me, but my main question is if it is worth to restart a whole year later financially. i know i will pass everything next year, especially already having learned the material, even if life happens again.

also, if i did restart, i probably would get a part time job for some extra money for my rent. ik this is a bad idea to anyone else, but i passed every other course with flying colors with cramming on the weekends. i typically take the week off and passively look at things, but i normally didn't do much 5-10pm on the weekdays. ofc i don't want to cram again, but my point is i already know a lot and know it's something i am able to do, just wanted to mention for the financial aspect. also i don't listen in class and study instead, so that's 8h of studying daily right there.

i truly don't know what else i would do. i like healthcare admin, but i would always have a failure in my heart as i have wanted this career since i was in high school. networking also sucks in corporate lol but i also have thought about it before, the thought of starting over is scary tho

I have black hair naturally and have been dying it blonde for the past 7 years. i decided to go back to black, and my hair holds a lot of identity for me and is a very symbolic thing in my mind. I have been wanting to start a new chapter, and this is my way of starting it.

only thing is, i kind of want to reveal to be by myself. I haven't seen myself with my natural color since i was a teenager. i feel like seeing my hair with my now matured face will be shocking and i just want that moment with myself. Is it weird to tell my stylist i dont want to see the result?

i was planning on DMing her after to tell her thanks and that i love it after the fact , but i wasn't sure if it's awkward or how to ask. the awkward part especially since i will have to avoid the mirror, I mean i don't mind a glimpse since my hair is a bit grown out and the underside half of my hair is pretty dark already but yeah i just don't know if it's weird or not!

btw i wouldn't explain the symbolic thing lol just kindly request to not see my hair until i get home. also she is a new stylist to me so i'm just a new client to her!

so i got bangs the other day and i wanted outgrown curtain bangs look. i got slightly longer than typical bangs. I am so upset. I cannot believe how short it is. i also could not have made my request more clear as i always get the same bangs. I am just so shocked because it was long before, and now it is so drastically different. the salon gave me a refund, but it just sucks because now i hate my hair.

I know it will grow back but i hate the way it looks and got my hair done recently because i needed a bit of a confidence boost as i haven't put much effort into my appearance recently. I'm going to start hair oiling, i know it wont help much but just to promote hair growth.

idk i guess it just sucks because a refund wont make my hair grow back. i know with dye they fix it, but what else can they do for hair that's gone? nothing other than a refund. ik the stylist spend time on my hair, but i personally do not care for her 45 min on my hair versus the few months i have to wait to get my desired results.

it just really sucks and i feel awful. i am so angry and my feelings are overwhelming. i feel overdramatic but i really do not understand how she cut it so short. I put so much self identity in my hair because it's something I enjoy. not to mention she cut off way more than discussed but i'm not even worried about that right now. any advice? i can make it look decent but i just hate the way i look.

genuinely how are some hair stylists so bad? I went to get bangs today and she totally messed it up. but my point for this post is I dont understand how they don't listen to their clients. for example, in healthcare, there is medical interviewing. you interview the patient because you know things they don't, and can advise them.

Hairstylists these days act dumb and are like "well you asked for this". (not me but for ex, someone with a small face getting bangs, like ofc gonna look a little weird if they have a round face). the hairstylist job is to advise them and then go from there, and if the client is insistent, then proceed. it's not that hard. I go in knowing what i want and explaining it well because i genuinely get my hair done all the time. and they still manage to mess it up.

I also don't know why some take their job lightly when they know the implications of someones hair. when making a drastic change, i think you should cut longer, ask client if OK, then proceed. also , what in the world does a salon do when a stylist cuts too short? yes refund, but you can't give someone their hair back??

this is mainly for stylists who aren't as experienced. I have seen many as I move around, and have similar instances, but not all. I do appreciate the career and this is only speaking of a few, this post is not to discredit all the talented artists who do truly care!

hi, this is really embarrassing to post tbh but i have been living by myself for the past few years and i always eat out or frozen food. randomly i will try grocery shopping and cooking, but i always get weird things. I guess my issue is, i dont really know how to grocery shop.

I always used to get bagels, bread, milk, eggs, etc, but then i have a lot of ingredients and no ideas.

and then if i make a meal plan and get specific ingredients, that's great but the perishables go away too quickly. for example, i'll make a med bowl with hummus, but then i'll meal prep pasta and then my hummus is expired (just an ex)

I'm really busy so sometimes i'll instacart, but i don't do it or shop often bc i'm lazy, and that's why my stuff expires so quick. this also adds so much unnecessary stress and it feels stupid because everyone has to grocery shop, but to me it's the end of the world.

can someone send me a realistic grocery shopping list? i'll eat anything, I'm not picky, but want to better my diet without going to the grocery store every week if that's even realistic. thanks

also, a basic list like lettuce, onions, etc for me is confusing because i have no idea what to do with anything. maybe a list with meal ideas that you use or websites? i even tried using chatgpt but ran into the same issues i always do

EDIT: what i do currently have is corn, black beans, frozen chicken, frozen veggies, pasta, pasta sauce.

does anyone know any cool jewelry places , specifically for rings that are local? I want more silver jewelry, but my hands are pretty small so i need to go in person, i want cool pieces that aren't gonna cost an arm and leg. thanks!

my program allows you to fail 2 courses and have to make them up, delaying graduation by 2 months. i have reached my max, if you fail a third you have to restart next cohort. my question is, i still have a while until didactic ends. is it worth staying? i’m already in debt from paying for two semesters, not sure if it's worth going into more debt to have to restart in case i fail another course. at the same time, if i dropped out, i still have the part of school i have to pay for, and i also have 0 idea what i would do. i feel like going into a different career would be so hard, and i would want to make money so i can start paying off my debt.

also i go to a private school so it's a lot more expensive

edit: i'm not asking if i should drop out since i failed. i’m asking if financially it would be worth to leave or stay

trying to pray more. i want to make sure i say everything correctly so i normally follow along to a video, but i can't find a good one. there is one on youtube but it sounds robotic and i would rather have a human. does anyone know where i can find that? i've tried looking on the internet but haven't had any luck

i've really been struggling and ask no one to be judgemental. if you're going to be rude and judgy, then please do not waste time commenting.

I am a female, and drink, smoke, and wear "inappropriate" clothing. I am in a relationship with a non-muslim. But my faith is so strong. I believe in Islam and Allah wholeheartedly. I love this religion and everything about it, I just have my own struggles. I have been wanting to commit zina, but haven't because it feels like the only thing I have left. But it's not, I still have such a strong faith and belief. I honestly would have by now, but am scared for how I will feel in the future. I just feel myself getting further and further away from faith. But i still have such a strong belief. I try to pray everyday, but it never seems to work. But I still do it.

I know I'm contradicting myself, but if you are judging me and don't understand, consider yourself grateful you have never had a crisis of faith.

I’m in my first year of PA school and I failed my first class last month. Ever since then, I feel like I’ve been spiraling.

From the beginning, I felt different from a lot of my classmates. I’m very Type B, while everyone else seems incredibly organized, gets to class early, studies constantly, and has their lives together. Rationally, I know that’s probably not true, but it’s hard not to compare myself. I feel like people judge me for not being as “on top of things,” especially now that my grades are reflecting my struggles. I get to class right before it starts, have been late only a few times and have gotten in trouble with my program becasue of it.

The truth is, I haven’t been putting in the effort I know I’m capable of. My motivation is just gone. I know I need to study more, but I can’t seem to make myself do it. I’m tired all the time, everything feels flat, and I’m starting to wonder if this is bigger than PA school and more related to depression.

I have a good support system, but they all live far away. I go home on weekends when I can, but I know I probably need to spend more time studying instead. Seeing my friends working their full-time jobs, making money, and moving forward in life makes me feel behind, even though I know PA school is just a different path. I also do not like the people in my class. They just suck. I also don't like the city I'm in either so I feel so isolated.

I’ve tried to find a therapist, but mental health resources have been difficult to access with my schedule. I was also prescribed Adderall for possible ADHD, but my doctor left the practice shortly afterward. It makes me feel more aware, but it doesn’t help me actually get things done.

I guess I’m posting because I feel stuck. Not the normal “PA school is stressful” kind of stuck, but the “I don’t enjoy anything anymore and can’t find motivation for anything” kind of stuck.

Has anyone else experienced this during PA school (or another healthcare program)? Especially people who are more Type B and felt like they lost all motivation? How did you get out of it?

so i failed a course today. i'm in my first year, and was told it would delay my clinicals and graduation by a month, which i am okay with. but they also said the school would not give me my diploma until august rather than may/ june. i can take the pance in summer, but would not be able to get licensed until i have a diploma. i know it takes about 3 months to get licensed, but because my diploma will not be given until august, will it take another 3 months to practice? i just can't imagine june - october with no income and it's really getting to me. to be clear, i'll have taken the pance by july, just waiting on my diploma which will be given in august. also, how would i explain this when job hunting?