AITJ for considering divorcing my wife even if I still love her TL;DR
TL:DR
My (21m) wife (20f) have been married for two years together for five. The problem is that my wife has medical problems and can’t get to stressed out, and the only jobs she’s qualified for are extremely stressful so she’s a stay at home wife. However she doesn’t have anything that stops her from being able to pick up trash every now and then.
The thing is in the last two years she has been, I hate to say, lazy. She doesn’t clean up, I do. She doesn’t cook, I do. She doesn’t help manage our bills or money, it’s all on me. I work 84 hours a week, and the most I get when I get home is a hug, which don’t get me wrong I do want that but I also want to feel like she’s happy I’m home and not going through the motions.
And I’ve told her more time then I can count over the last two years that what’s happening hurts. And she’ll do better for a few days, but then it’s back to normal. But here is the problems I’m having with all of this, I love her, she has no family, no friends, no job, we have a prenup so she doesn’t get any of my money so long as I haven’t cheated which I haven’t. And on top of that we live in a high cost city / state.
I can’t just send her out to take care of herself when I know she can’t, she has no where to go, I own our car because it was a gift from my uncle, which I could give to her, except she can’t pay for insurance and gas. And if we broke up I wouldn’t want to live with her because it would hurt, because every part of me wants to take care of her and the thought of stopping makes me physically ill.
So living together would be the same as it already is except she wouldn’t be my wife and that makes it feel even worse because I know, she’d let me keep taking care of her even if we weren’t together. And I don’t know what to do.
I talked to my mom and she says if I left her I would regret it for the rest of my life, probably true, and as her husband this is my job, to take care of her without expecting anything in return because then it’s just transactional. And even thinking like this makes me awful. But I’m so tired, and stressed, and alone, I don’t know what to do.
Edit: because everyone wanted paragraphs here you go, and no I don’t understand paragraphs because I have severe dyslexia and all the words flow together for me anyway