Gf of 3 years Cheated with Mutual Friend
I’m not gonna delve too far into it because there are people on this sub that have it way worse. Getting cheated on, and that break of trust is an extremely painful thing to endure and anyone who has endured it, I am sorry you went through it. This is round 2 for me which makes it pretty brutal but here we go.
My gf (she’s bisexual, that’s important later) and I have been together for 3 years and throughout our relationship I have been the one who have shouldered a lot of the burden in terms of the household, financially, and even the work in our relationship, bc she was finishing college.
We join a martial arts gym in hopes of gaining a new skill as well as making some new friends (which we were lacking). A couple of months in and we make a little friend group with a married man, a woman my gf’s age, and a woman that is 17 years her elder. Our friendship involves hanging out at bars a lot.
I’ve always had some reservations about my gf stemming from the first time I was cheated on (it was a 4 year relationship) so she knew this was my one scar that still was painful to this day.
Well today (because I caught them rubbing each others legs under the table at the bar, so I confronted both of them) I learned that for the past 4 months, she has been cheating on me with the woman who is 17 years her elder. Off and on for these 4 months, where she said it was the other woman’s idea and it happened when they were drunk.
The shitty thing is that within those 4 months, my entire family planned and threw her a graduation party (her family isn’t super involved in her life), I took her on a week long trip to Puerto Rico, and she was pushing us to find a new apartment TODAY, bc our lease is up in a couple weeks.
So yeah, this was extremely brutal and this is all very raw for me. Sorry for sparing the excruciating details, but yeah. I figured I would want to hear from this sub bc not all people know what it’s like to have your trust broken.
Edit: I do not have any inclination of wanting to stay with her. I made it extremely clear, that I was willing to work through everything in a relationship except cheating. She was distraught and in tears when she finally confessed. She kept saying “I don’t want to lose you” and “I know I messed up”. We slept in separate rooms last night but since our lease is up in a few weeks I’ll be packing my things up and moving away from this city that’s taken too much from me and going back home.