Not sure if this is COCSA or not
TW for weird stuff? idk :/
Posting this from a separate account.
Currently, I (18F) have not been in contact with this person i’m going to call J(18M) for a long time. And I don’t intend TO be in touch with this person ever again. But here’s what happened.
For context, I was 4 or 5, in kindergarten- in Australia, so I think the US equivalent is preschool? Well so was he. That is important. The class we were in had a couch that had a really big space under it. It wasn’t uncommon for kids to hide under it at all. One time, I stole the teacher’s morning tea (a scone) and I ate it under that couch. But that’s irrelevant.
J also had a complicated living situation. His mother was 18-19 or so when he was born, and his father- her boyfriend- was mostly absent from what I can tell. His mother also was attending university I think, so this other 4-5 year old didn’t get a whole lot of attention at home from his mother.
But I don’t really know why he would do this.
He kept asking to touch me. Inappropriately.
I kept saying no. He didn’t stop asking me.
Eventually I gave in, because I was 4 or 5 and didn’t understand what was wrong with it.
This happened under the previously mentioned couch, where it happened FOUR OR FIVE other times before another student found out and told a teacher. The teacher pulled me aside, told me what J was doing was wrong, etc etc. I was like ok because I didn’t understand at all.
Since I didn’t see what was wrong, it never bothered me what happened, and I didn’t think of it much ever- or at all, until we were in 7th grade.
I had moved schools by 5th grade, with another relevant person- C. now C got back in contact with J in 7th grade due to J randomly joining C in roblox one day.
J and C started messaging. Eventually, toward the end of year 6, J told C what happened when we were 4-5. Only thing is, according to C, he boasted about it. I will appreciate that he was 12, and might not have understood how messed up saying that was, but he should’ve at that age tbh.
C immediately sided with me. She stopped being friends with him for that (and many other reasons I will not get into bc it’s a whole other story) And she told me what he had said.
It definitely disturbed me more this time, since I had actual comprehension skill and knew that that was not normal at all. C also said about how weird she thought it was, even saying it was SA. I wasn’t sure, since we were like 5 and neither of us truly understood.
But the way he boasted about in when he could’ve probably comprehended what was an issue was my main issue.
thoughts?