Am I (17M) bad for dumping a girl (supposedly 16F) I was seeing if she lied about her age?
Sorry if this isn't the right subreddit to post this on.
I (17M now, 16M when this happened) met this girl a few months ago through a mutual friend. She told me she was 15 turning 16, and we clicked really well. We had a lot of similar interests, so we always had things to talk about and ended up speaking every day. Eventually, we started texting/hanging out more, catching feelings for eachother. Though we were both busy with our own things so we wouldn't go out as much.
She was really sweet and affectionate. We'd hold hands, hug, cuddle, you know, normal relationship stuff. I never really tried to kiss her because I felt like that would've been too rushed. I'm also not that big on physical affection in general.
Some time ago, her birthday started getting closer. We talked about it a lot, and I planned to ask her to officially be my girlfriend on her birthday as a surprise. I bought gifts for her, made something by hand, and got genuinely excited.
Then her birthday came, and everything went wrong.
I really don't like age gaps, especially during teenage years, because I'd feel like a creep dating someone much younger than me. Since she told me she was 15 turning 16, I didn't think there was anything wrong with it. We were just a year and some months apart anyways.
We were supposed to celebrate her birthday at a friend's house. Her friend added me on Instagram beforehand so we could organize things and so she could tell me when the party was. She sent me pictures of the decorations, and one of the pictures showed the cake.
The cake said "14."
I completely freaked out. At first I thought maybe it was a mistake, so I asked her friend why the cake said 14 if she was supposedly turning 16. Her friend got confused too, and after talking for a bit, I found out the truth.
She wasn't 15 turning 16.
She was actually 13 turning 14, while I was 16 turning 17 when we met.
She deliberately lied about her age because she knew I would've never dated someone that much younger than me. We ended things a few days later because I didn't want to ruin her birthday immediately after finding out.
I still feel really weird and guilty about the whole situation, though. Am I a bad person for dumping her? Or a creep for not realizing she was lying about her age?