Feeling locked out of alone time with my 5 month old son - is this normal?
My son is 5 months old and my partner and I are still together, but I’m really struggling with something and wanted to get some outside perspective.
Every time I’ve tried to get some one-on-one time with my son, it gets shut down. A couple of examples:
When she had a headache and our son was kicking off, I offered to take him out for a walk so she could rest. I was told “no, you can’t go without me.”
I suggested taking him out so she could have some free time to get things done she always says she never has time for. That got rejected with “why would you do that, I can just go in another room.”
She recently started an exercise class on Wednesdays that she goes to with her mum and sister-in-law. I thought this would be the perfect opportunity for me to have some daddy-son time at home. Instead I was given two options:
1. Come to the venue and watch the class while looking after him
2. Have her dad look after our son in the pram at the venue
So essentially her dad, who isn’t even a parent to our son, is being given preference over me as the actual father because she will still be able to see our son.
I genuinely feel like I’m not consulted on decisions involving my own son, and like I’m not trusted to be alone with him. Am I overreacting? Has anyone else experienced this? Is this normal new parent behaviour on her part, or is something else going on here?