Did I get ghosted or is there another explanation?
I (30F) was in a long-distance situation with a guy (33M), and this has been going on for almost two years. For most of that time, he was very consistent with communication and effort, which is part of why I’m so confused by what happened.
In the beginning, things were very intense. He came on strongly with a lot of attention, affection, future talk, and made me feel very wanted. Looking back, parts of it felt almost like love bombing, although at the time I just saw it as strong interest. As time went on, I also noticed some signs of jealousy at different points.
Recently we had a heated argument about a political group he is associated with, but right after that he didn't completely disappear. His responses became slower, but when I asked how he felt about us, he said he still liked me, wanted to meet me, and would call me soon.
He also said his mom was sick and that he wasn't spending much time on his phone. I told him to focus on taking care of her and also asked directly if he was seeing anyone else. After that, he never replied to that message.
I called him later and he picked up once, said he was at work and would call me back. He never did. The next day he texted saying he fell asleep after work. That was May 3rd and I haven't heard from him since.
The confusing part is that after that he continued posting Instagram stories for around a week while not responding to my texts or calls. Now there has been no activity anywhere.
At the same time, my own life has been stressful too. My job and immigration situation have been stuck for a long time, and it’s connected because getting stability would finally allow us to meet in person.
I even texted him multiple times, which feels embarrassing now. I almost want to puke thinking about it because I kept reaching out after getting nothing back.
The thing is, he genuinely doesn't sound like the kind of person who would ghost me. We have been talking for almost two years and he was very consistent. I always felt like if he wasn't interested anymore, he would just say it directly instead of disappearing.
I keep going back and forth between "he's overwhelmed with family/work/life stuff" and "this is a slow fade/ghosting situation." After almost two years of consistency, I genuinely don't know what to make of this.