My girlfriend broke up with me because she thinks I'm gay
Throw away account because too many people know my main. I'll try to make this short.
I had been dating this woman for a little over a year. A few months ago she asked me how I felt about a threesome. I thought she was joking and said I don't think I could satisfy two women at once.
She said she was serious but thinking about a MMF threesome. That hurt my feelings. Am I not good enough in bed? I told her I would not be ok with her having sex with another man. She says that's fine because what she wants is to see me getting fucked by a man. Absolutely not. End of conversation. I have nothing against gay people, it's just not my thing.
Over the following weeks she brought it up a few more times. It got to the point where I felt I had to agree or break up with her. Maybe if we did it she would let it go, so I told her if she found someone I would do it. Nobody we know though.
So she goes on the apps and finds a guy and we agree to meet at a local motel. So at first it was ok. We were both giving him a blowjob. She was really into it and so was I. It was new and exciting (I had never done anything with a guy before). Then it came time for him to penetrate me. I wasn't into that at all, but I had agreed to it and didn't want the drama if I backed out. I just closed my eyes and waited for him to finish.
When he was done I looked around and my girlfriend was not in the room. Not in the bathroom either. WTF! Awkward. I call her and get no answer. She texts and says she got an Uber home (we don't live together) and we'll talk tomorrow.
The next day she tells me she got the ick seeing me with a guy and doesn't know if she can be attracted to me again. And she thinks I'm probably gay. I reminded her that it was her idea and she says I wouldn't have agreed to it if I wasn't at least partly gay.
We argued for a while and decided to take a cooldown period. This was almost 2 weeks ago. We have not spoken since. She got her things from my place today while I was at work and left her key in the mailbox.
So I guess we're done. Thanks for listening.
EDIT: I don't have time to respond to all of these comments so thank you for all the supportive and positive comments!
A couple points though:
I understand the people that are saying the situation is a bit rapey but I don't feel like it was. I never felt like I couldn't end it at any time if it became too uncomfortable (either physically or emotionally)
As for the other guy, he was just as mortified as I was when we realized she had left. He actually messaged me the next day to apologize. I told him there was nothing to apologize for, he just did what we asked him to do.
As for her setting this up for an excuse to end the relationship or to humiliate me or even because she had suspicions that I was in the closet: I don't think any of that was it. I think she had a fantasy that she thought she'd be into and it turned out she wasn't. She just didn't handle it in a mature way.
Looking back I'm seeing all the red flags with her personality. Always needing things her way, the guilt trips if she doesn't get her way. I guess I overlooked that stuff because there were a lot of good parts too. It hurts but it's for the best that we're done.
For all the homophobes. Having sex with a man doesn't make a man gay. Gay men prefer sex with men and form strong emotional/romantic bonds with men. Of course there is a wide spectrum in between that and being completely straight. It's not as simple as, "You sucked a dick so yer gay! Hur hur hur!"