alcohol abuser
TLDR: My 40yo college roommate with severe anger issues drinks everyday, steals our alcohol and food, and threatens to SUE US when we get him kicked out.
This is a past story, but one I still remember it to this day. I used to live in university leased apartments and an older gentleman (hitting 40) moved in as well because we were essentially randomly assigned.
Time goes by and strange things start to happen, usually late into the night. I find the stove left on in the mornings, food missing, and I start to ask all my roommates whats happening. They tell me the full story (since I dont share a bedroom with him) and that he drinks every night until he's blackout drunk. I also found out that he vaped inside nonstop and tried to even buy alcohol for my underage roommate on move-in day and then ended up drinking it himself after. And he drinks in the mornings.
I'm not one to get into anyone's business until it affects me, and the stove being turned on was bad so I warned him to be careful to not burn the place down or anything. He agrees, and we move on. However, it happens another time and then I find out he hides his empty beer cans is when I realized it was baaaaad.
One day I have a friend over and we drink together (we're both legal age), and out of kindness I offered him to join. Big mistake. He gets so drunk in a matter of 30 minutes that we have to help him to his bed and he fell off several times after. Then I saw his stash of empty beer cans which made me feel bad for him.
The weirdest part was that me and my friend left half-empty bottles of alcohol around. So that night I put them in the fridge because they still had a lot left in them. But i had to leave for a few days right after, so I left. When I came back, those half empty containers were gone. Confirmed with my other roommates just to be sure but yeah Mr. Alcohol addict drank the half empty bottles while I was gone. I gave him the benefit of the doubt, until not even a few days later the full unopened bottles in the fridge were also taken.
Anyways, about 2 weeks later I'm studying late at night, probably 3 AM, and my bedmate is out of town so its just me in my bedroom. I hear the door open and low and behold this guy is drunk and doesnt know where he is. I lock my door that night, and we have a long talk the next day about his problematic behavior (disruptive behavior, stealing food, vaping, leaving stove on) and how I was going to report this to the university, and police if needed, if anything else happened from that point on. We agreed, and so we moved on.
However it was important to note that when he stole my alcohol, he claims it was because he was already drunk. He even bought more to replace the ones he stole (my other mates saw him) to then DRINK IT HIMSELF RIGHT AFTER. So i asked if money was an issue since he didnt have a car even at 40 years old but he said finances were fine, and even took offense to the question?? Like you're 40 with a job but taking groceries and alcohol from ~20 year olds, and youre offended I ask a sensible question? Anyways, time goes on.
It wasnt long before we found my other rooomate's groceries were stolen soon after. We reported him, provided all the evidence, and the university had him removed in days. However, before he got removed, he got emotional that I had to report him and that I "overescalated", as well as talked this big talk about having legal staff to protect him during the university-held meeting. Basically texted me/us like he was going to own us then continued to do nothing. Nothing happened, and he thanked me and my roomates for handling it well. I think he's got a personality disorder or is just a keyboard warrior.
On an extra rant: this guy definitely has problems. He has a court order about disorderly conduct involving alcohol, says the n-word a lot when hes drunk (the whitest person you can imagine), and lied to us about having a girlfriend (when we didnt even ask).
Edits:
- I had no idea about his drinking problem before I invited him to drink. The information about his substance abuse was only told to me after I helped him to his bed, to which his bedmate told me about it all. I simply provided context that I was told after the fact but was actively happening before I invited him.