Cupioromantics, how would you describe your feelings towards your partners?
I am cupioromantic and have in the last few months got into a relationship with my best friend. This has got me late-night wondering exactly how to describe the type of love I feel for them, because it's not romantic but it's also not exclusively platonic.
I love them on a more meaningful level than any other person ever, but I don't relate to any description of romantic love at all. My love is not quite as intense as romantic, but my love/our relationship is as meaningful as any romantic feelings/any serious and committed allo x allo relationship.
it's very much meaningful and committed, but I've not related to a single description of romantic love ever. I didn't have a "crush" on my boyfriend, it was moreso they had a crush on me and I've thought it would be awesome to date them, honestly since I met them lol. dont get me wrong I'm in this relationship for more than just "it's awesome" and our dynamic has very much shifted to be more meaningful since they confessed. loved them deeply platonically beforehand, but now I love them deeply in a third, secret way. yapping lots but I just wanna be clear that I'm not confused on whether I'm actually aro. I would not describe my love as romantic, its more a deeply meaningful love that I choose to express in a romantic way.
so I'm asking here to see if any fellow cupios have given this a lot of thought and are able to describe it better? I feel like I have all the pieces and CAN describe it, but can't really word it concisely and neatly.
Also im curious on the different experiences of cupioromantics and would love to hear different ways you'd describe your love that is different than mine! I really like hearing cupioromantics discuss our identity in general :D
side note, I don't feel the need to explain myself to anyone else because my partner is not at all worried or self conscious about me being aro at all and knew I was cupioromantic for a long while before our relationship. this discussion is just for me to understand myself and my own identity better :3