u/FeonJun

Disclaimer: I don't actively look for this kind of topic nor the kind of articles. I think A.I. uses my Asian profile and send this kind of content to my social media feed. Another thing, I have NOTHING AGAINST interracial couples. Frankly, at this point, touching on the topic is beating a dead horse a billion times already. What I hate is the public humiliation ritual of unwitting Asian men.

>*"*Asian-American women do not surrender their “AZN Membership Card” at the altar."

The above tagline is from the 'I Didn't Surrender My Asian-American Identity When I married A White Man' from HuffPost written by Louise Hung.

One would think, from the title, that she was going to talk about the meaning of being an Asian American, which transcends whom they (Asians) get in bed with , but instead, she went for the Asian male's jugular from start, and written the old tired and recycled Asian male hate manifesto ("Move along, nothing to see here... move along")

>An internet troll developed a particular infatuation with me a few years ago. His obsession wasn’t so much with me as with what I’d “done.” I’d gone and married a white guy.

>To him, this made me a race traitor. There was no way I could love my “Asianness” and also love my white husband. It wasn’t a partnership, but a conflict in which I’d surrendered.

>Identifying himself as half-Asian and half-white, he told me I was a “whore” to the white male patriarchy, and that my “half-breed” abomination children would loathe me for not keeping their Chinese bloodline pure.

>The joke’s on you internet troll ― my husband and I don’t want kids! - Louise Hung

The paragraph below is the epitome of how western media frame Asian Americans, by giving a subset of Asians the platform and the echo chamber, which DOES NOT INCLUDE Asian men.

>But what I find more insidious is the belief that an Asian-American woman cannot be a proper advocate for Asian-American rights if she has partnered with a white man. That it nullifies her advocacy and renders her a hypocrite.

By Asian-American rights, she meant fighting the system for her and her ilk's rights to supplant the round-eye women, if you get my drift because demonization of Asian men, in western society, is absolute. For someone like her, the fight for the holistic Asian rights is pet project (side quest), just incase an issue of credibility arises. At its core, it's fighting for harm reduction by the type of men they chosen to be align with. For some warped reasons, it's more painful if people call their hypocrisy, but physical harm by the 'usual suspect' is compartmentalized into the denial cabinet.

This article from Hoffington Post popped up on my social media feed of an Asian person who thought solving life problem was to become white adjacent.

>"I distanced myself from other Asians, thinking I had found the solution to all of my problems by aligning myself with white people." - Sharon Kwan

>I was ashamed of how we looked to everyone else: uncivilized, loud, smelly with garlic breath, and dumb with our broken English and awkward accents. I hated how enmeshed and closed off my family was and how it seemed like nothing outside of us was allowed in and we weren’t allowed out.

>I used to hate being around other Asians ― in part because like most Korean Americans, I grew up in the church and thought that all Koreans were judgmental Christians, but also because I refused to accept that I was anything like them.

>I hated how Asians traveled together in flocks and how abrasive their languages seemed compared to the calm consistency of English. I used to make fun of other Asians, believing I was nothing like them, and trying to convince myself that I was more American ― or more white ― than them.

>Cathy Park Hong, author of “Minor Feelings: An Asian American Reckoning,” writes, “Racial self-hatred is seeing yourself the way the whites see you, which turns you into your own worst enemy.” I became my own worst enemy from the moment I arrived at LAX at only 3 years old, beginning what now feels like a lifetime of assimilating to whiteness and desperately trying to be seen and accepted.

This article also popped up on my feed at the same time, also from The Hoffington Post. This one is about an Asian person who exclusively dated white until they were cheated on; their partner cheated on them with another Asian person.

>"My 'type' wasn’t just a preference: It was an algorithm shaped by media and colonial history." - Melinda Li

I stand by my argument that western society, particularly North American society, do not see Asian men nor treat Asian men as part of the grander western Asian society with equal footing. Asian Americans identity is promoted from a skewed and one sided source. For every Asian 'self-discovery' articles, opeds, books, poems, movies, TV shows, vlogs or blogs, the UNWARRANTED PSYCHOLOGICAL blunt force torments and physiological trauma blow-backs that hit Asian boys and men at full force were and never will be addressed. That is the reason why I don't give out the obligatory 'awe good for you' response to articles such as those above because I see them a last ditch effort to pander for white sympathy by their authors. On the ONLY positive note, they are, however, definitive proof that Asian Asian men are not being paranoid about how they are being treated by western society.