I dont know if this is going anywhere. Advice needed
Hi 42 female here seeing 35 male seeing each other for about 2 months now. He's a genuinely good person, respectful, kind, and has a lot of green flags.
The problem is that I don't feel emotionally fulfilled. I often feel like I'm waiting on him — waiting to hear back, waiting to know if plans are happening, waiting for emotional connection, waiting for affection to be initiated, etc. He's very busy with work, so I keep giving a lot of grace and telling myself that his actions show he cares because he spends his limited free time with me.
But I also find myself feeling emotionally hungry, disconnected, and not fully myself around him. I laugh and enjoy spending time with him, but I don't feel deeply known. Sometimes I feel like I'm doing a lot of the reaching and interpreting while trying to reassure myself that he cares. He doesn't really kiss me at all. At first he said it was because he had a tooth pulled. But still even after he never does.
Has anyone ever ended a relationship with a genuinely good person simply because it wasn't enough emotionally? How did you know the difference between needing to communicate your needs better versus realizing you were fundamentally mismatched?
Looking for outside perspectives because I'm having trouble telling the difference between a relationship mismatch and my own overthinking.
I've been in genuinely unhealthy/abusive relationships so I feel like he's not bad so I shouldn't break things off. I also worry. We have great sex and he's so nice and respectful what if I don't find this again?