>!my thumbs and some of my fingers regularly look like this. Its painful and makes washing, cleaning and generally touching things difficult. the worse they get the more inclined i am to bite because of lifted/peeling edges that i can feel. been biting for 10+ years, i don’t know how to stop. the problem is less my nails and more the skin, so acrylic nails/nail polish dont work. !<
Hey all
I’m enby transmasc and prefer using they/them pronouns.
i’m eighteen and live at home with my mum, who has depression and borderline. She already prods me to grow my hair longer, tells me having body hair is gross, I should wear dresses more often etc. She has expressed her criticism at nonbinary characters in media and dubbed shows with enby characters “gone woke”.
However she has always tried to be understanding of her children and I myself have had a few binary transgender friends who she’s always been pleasant and supportive too. I just worry that once it comes to her own child she might not be so. I feel that she’ll be one of those parents who either feels they lost their daughter, or believe that i dont know what i’m talking about and it’s just a phase/wont take me seriously.
To some degree she must know that I’m not exactly cis…I‘ve mentioned the idea of top surgery (double mastectomy) after my close friend brought his want of it up. She just has a tendency to flip the switch very suddenly and become completely shut down to any sort of understanding or patience which i’m worried might happen. I just don’t know how to bring it up to her in a way that is both informative and gentle. I don’t want it to be casually put out there because she wont take it seriously then, but having hard conversations with her is extremely difficult.
Additionally, i believe i’ll be living with her a long while and I strongly want top surgery at some point, which she has the means to help me pay for as she‘s a high earner. So avoiding the topic entirely is hard.
Anyway, sorry for the long block of text. Any advice is helpful! (Additionally I have a therapist but I only see them once a month and our sessions are only an hour long, we havent been able to bring this up yet)
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I promise i don’t think i’m in any trouble of being kicked out. While my mum can have issues with being understanding, she is absolutely not the type of person at all to kick anyone out. i just worry about her not understanding it and how do i phrase it when coming out to her in a way she’ll take seriously. She’s a lovely person, and i love her incredibly and i’d like to say we have a good relationship. I just don‘t know how to explain to her this large facet of myself that is beginning to weigh on me more and more.