Lesbian/ I’ve been dumped twice for giving off "friend vibes" instead of romantic ones. What am I doing wrong?
Hi everyone, I’m looking for some perspective because I’m feeling really lost and hurt right now. I’ve only been in two relationships so far, and both ended for the exact same reason.
Relationship 1 (3 months): She ended things by saying she felt like we gave off "friend vibes" rather than a romantic couple. She offered to stay friends, but I was really upset and deeply disappointed. I was so excited about our potential, and honestly, at the time, I felt like she just used that as an excuse to break up with me.
Relationship 2 (6 months): This one hurt differently because it made me realize the first girl might have been telling the truth. Throughout our 6 months together, my girlfriend would occasionally mention that she felt a lack of romance between us, saying it felt more like a friendship. I was confused because we did everything regular couples do. She genuinely tried to fix it and work on it, but in the end, she still broke up with me for that exact reason.
I am incredibly heartbroken. In both relationships, I was having a great time, thought everything was fun, and genuinely enjoyed their company. I didn't see any issues until it was too late.
Since these were my first two relationships, I’m starting to wonder if the problem is me. How can I do "all the couple things" but still fail to create a romantic spark :'(