Do they always have to be the victim at the end?
So my ex 36M discarded me beginning of February. Totally ghosted me to end the 1yr relationship. We did have contact twice (once when he was nice and breadcrumbing and once when he was just his usual horrible self). He left all his belongings at mine after living with me for 6+months. I gave him deadline after deadline to collect and two weeks ago I’d had enough and posted his fishing things back to him because I’d had enough of him taking up physical space in my life (all other belongings went in the bin). Obviously he didn’t acknowledge getting them back. Then last Monday my dad passed away suddenly and in a moment of total weakness I text him to let him know and to ask one final time for him to pay me back my money. He called me two days later with his new girlfriend on speaker phone, glossed over the money completely and did a full performance of how evil I was, how I’d kept some of his fishing things (he gave them to my son and now desperately needed them back after 4 months of silence and I actually paid for the majority of the things that he said my son could keep), how I’d cheated the whole relationship which I didn’t as I stupidly loved that man so much but every time I challenged him and said actually it was you constantly on Snapchat / messaging other girls, he’d shout and project it onto me somehow. What do they actually get out of doing it? Do they always need to be the victim at the end of the relationship so the new partner doesn’t know how bad of a person they actually are?