NC with narc father
Hi all,
I keep breaking NC with my narc parents every 1-2 years. This time he involved me in another family drama which involves my niece. He was trying to exploit her trust fund which was to go towards her studies.
after a few days of chronic spiraling, I decided I’m not going to cover his a** anymore and he must face the consequences of his actions even he is broke.
He had asked me for the money that he’s supposed to give her. He was made the guardian because the in laws are extremely abusive as well.
So my poor niece is stuck between two evils. I feel helpless to get her out but I know when she ever needs me I’ll be there. I am currently healing myself after a divorce from a narc and don’t have the bandwidth to save anyone else.
Long story short, I feel so much guilt because he paid for my education, wedding, bought me things throughout my teenage years and I feel this intense obligation to pay him back. I also feel like he might be in a very bad state if I don’t give him the money and he’s getting old which makes this worse. But I cannot enable an abusive man.
The whole point was to model to my niece that we shouldn’t save abusive people from their actions/consequences.
I feel like a bad and ungrateful daughter and I’ve anyway been discarded and smeared many times for being spoilt apparently! Even after years of all sorts of abuse just because he paid for my education!