My boyfriend 25 M supported me 24F through everything, but now our relationship has fallen apart
I recently broke up with my boyfriend after being together for almost 3 years, and I'm feeling completely lost.
The first year of our relationship was the best year of my life. We spent a lot of time together. At that time, I was working a job that I hated, and I would constantly complain to him about my office and coworkers. He was always there to listen and support me.
After about a year, I got fired. I had seen it coming, but I hid it from my parents because I knew they would start pressuring me to get married. I spent almost a year unemployed and searching for a new job.
During that entire period, my boyfriend supported me financially. He paid my rent, covered my monthly expenses, paid for a consultancy to help me find a job, and even bought me a new phone after I broke mine. Without him, I honestly don't know how I would have managed.
Eventually, I got a new job. The pay isn't great, but I like the company and the friends I've made there. I can support myself now.
The problem is that while my situation improved, his got much worse.
We are now in a long-distance relationship. His company depends heavily on him, and he's constantly working. Sometimes he doesn't go home for days. He rarely gets proper sleep, and whenever we talk, he often sounds exhausted, stressed, or irritated.
At the same time, both of our families have started discussing marriage proposals. I managed to convince my family to accept our relationship, but his family is strongly against me.
He's also in debt. A lot of that debt came from helping me when I was unemployed, and I feel incredibly guilty about it. I've tried to pay him back, but I can't cover everything. He's stuck in a cycle of borrowing money to pay off other debts.
Now he's under pressure from every direction—his parents, his financial situation, and his work. We started fighting constantly. I kept begging him not to leave, but I couldn't tell what he really wanted anymore.
He eventually asked for space. I tried to give it to him and focus on myself, but I struggled. I still want him in my life, and a part of me feels like I would do anything to make things work.
What makes this harder is the guilt. I feel responsible for so many of the problems he's facing now. I know there are other factors, but I can't stop blaming myself.
I'm looking for honest advice because right now I feel completely stuck.If he comes back should I take him back becuase Im not sure whether with or without knowing what if I hurt him again