1 year after..
Hey guys following up a year later after the “wife” (F28) left me (M29) very quickly, refused counseling, with no answers given, 3 month after our wedding. I was absolutely crushed at the time, didn’t eat or sleep for days, first time with a therapist, etc. I’m posting this to say keep your head up. I look back at what happened now and consistently say “it was the best thing that ever happened to me”.
I started investing in myself again immediately after she left, I got back into the gym and started doing competitive fitness again, I’ve dated a few girls that were strides better than the wife ever was (very eye opening), I got back into traveling and accomplished trips I had been talking about for years that the wife kept me from doing, I’ve been killing it at work, I fly back to my hometown more to spend time and build memories with my preschool aged niece and nephew and my mental health and religious faith have never been better.
I have become a better friend, a better uncle, a better brother and son.
She was a drain on my life, treated me and the people in my life awful and I couldn’t see it in the moment.
I know this is going to sound cliche, but everything happens for a reason and one year after everything started that reason is clear to me.
Next steps on my life, I’m currently in the process of selling the house I bought for her in AZ. (I currently still live here by myself) and once it sells I’m gonna start job hunting in Miami and Europe.
We’ll see where the wind takes me, but it’s been awhile since I’ve been this excited for the future.