Basically the title.
If you plan a weekend for me to go away somewhere as a gift to me and make no effort to plan or arrange anything on my end so that I can go on that trip without having one more thing to plan for and prepare for and do research for, then it's not a gift for me. It's now a project that I have to do work for and my payment is going on the trip.
If you make reservations without checking my calendar or asking if I already had plans during that time and I have to cancel my existing plans in order to go, then it's not a gift for me. It's an obligation.
If you buy me a gift that I did not ask for or never stated that I wanted and I have to do a series of tasks to use said gift, it's not a gift.
I probably sound exhausting, but I'm tired of receiving well-intentioned and grandiose gifts that i can't use because the giver was more focused on the idea of the gift than the implementation of the gift. Im tired of coming across entitled or unappreciative when having an additional set of responsibilities or stress is the last thing i need. I get folks like getting gifts but sometimes a gift is just not worth the hassle.