I run a business 8 hours away from my family. I wanted them to move with me after I launched and was making good money, but my wife fought me over and over until I gave in. She said she wanted to stay in Nashville. Now I only see my family part time and they live in our 3000 square foot home that costs $5500 a month to maintain.
I send $170k a year for them to live there. I live for around 40k a year by myself in South Carolina. I am home about 40-50% of the time now compared to 20% last year.
My wife now calls me and starts a fight with me every week because she wants a 80k car we can’t afford. We can’t afford it because of all the xtra costs it takes to keep the home and family in Nashville + for me to live in SC. We aren’t struggling at all, but we have high monthly costs.
Staying separated and in Nashville while I ran the business part time in SC was her preference but I no longer get to see my daughter, my home, my dogs. All of them I’m sending a lot of money for. The weeks she isn’t yelling at me about a new car, she will tell me that I don’t care or support her. Even though I send $170k a year and come back every moment I can.
I feel like I have done everything I can in this situation and she prioritizes a new car more than our family’s future. I can’t take the regurgitated fight anymore, I’m exhausted from it. I’ve asked her at least 20 times to let the car go for a few months yet like Groundhog Day it comes back up every week.
Am I the asshole?