AITA for refusing to apologize after being treated badly?
I (17F) have a sister (20F) who recently came home from college after finishing her second year. She told me and our mom shes been dealing with burnout. Since summer was starting for me too, I was excited for us to finally relax together and for her to have less stress. The first few weeks were great. One day I went into her room because I had a school question. She was asleep. I asked her and she responded groggy with a one word answer. so I asked something else and she didnt respond, so I poked her on the back to get her attention. She got extremely angry, yelled at me, and asked what i was doing. For context my sister and I are very close and have always been playful with each other. We poke each other, and even do something we call “posture checks,” where we touch each other’s backs to check posture. Just the weekend before I had poked her in the face with a napkin while she was asleep and she laughed. If this upset her I did not mean it, but her behavior after truly upset me .I thought poking her awake was our normal behavior. I had no intention of upsetting her Or making her uncomfortable at all. What confused me was how extreme her reaction was. She has barely, if ever, spoken to me that angry or even yelled at me. I left upset, and later she came into my room saying she couldn’t control herself because she was asleep. I struggled to accept that because she had already responded to me before yelling, so I felt she was at least partly awake and still responsible for how harsh she was.We stopped talking for a few days. later, I asked whether she would apologize for how she reacted. She became angry again and said her reaction was justified and that I was making excuses for my own behavior. Which Contradicted her ”not control” .I explained that we had always interacted this way and that she had never previously told me it bothered her. She responded that I had never done it while she was asleep and that examples from years ago didnt matter. I pointed out that she had also grabbed me or taken things from me while half asleep before, to show her that it’s not something rare, but she dismissed that too. A few days later, she asked for an apology. I again brought up how hurt I was by her reaction. She again said that she had been asleep, and when I said she seemed half awake, she got angry again, called me a liar, and said she didn’t care about how I felt. (She has never scted like that) and stormed off after saying she didnt care about my feelings and would not apologize. This was after I told her I’d apologize if she did too. My mom says my sister is stressed and burned out and that I should apologize anyway, because she firmly believes my sister is acting abnormal and will not apologize.. I understand my sister is burnout , but I still feel hurt by how harshly she treated me and by her lack of empathy. My mom continues to say she was just talking out of anger, which ironically caused this whole situation. am I wrong?