I can’t stand my bonus son.
I hate the title but it’s the truth. He’s 5 gonna be 6 and he just doesn’t freaking listen. It also doesn’t help that me and his mom are both females. He goes to his dad’s 50% of the time. Except it’s not his dads it’s his grandparents he’s with almost 90% of the time he’s with his dad and they let him just do whatever he wants. So then he comes home and expects the same from our house. My wife use to be more stern until we decided to go through a fertility and get pregnant now I’m 8 months pregnant and I’m regretting it so much. Ever since that test came up positive she just flipped. She compares them constantly even tho my daughter isn’t even born yet. She tries to tell me I ruined his young years with her (he was one and half when I came into his life) it’s like she forget the two year custody battle is what ruined those years not me if anything I was her sons biggest advocate through it all. He is severely adhd and she always gives in and says stuff like “it’ll make our life’s easier if you just give him his way” except i refuse to be a permissive parent. Tonight for example we went to a carnival he had to be corrected multiple times at the end we let him go through a fun house we looked at him in the eyes and said only one time around and then you come to us he ignored that and hurry and ran back in two more times (parents couldn’t enter) so we waited by the exit and she grabbed his arm which he tried push/hit her off and argued that he is gonna go again which then i snapped and told him to knock it off and we are done going on rides period. She then seemed irritated and pissy the whole way home. That’s not even the worst of the many of incidents. You can say I’m expecting to much from a 5 year old except as a child I would never speak to my mother the way he does. It’s constant, every single day there is one of many more incidents. He is so disrespectful and he truly thinks he has a say so, when we are talking to him in the car about listening he is just arguing his point across “well if I want to I can” “you stop talking to me your making me mad” “I said stop talking so that means you stop” is what he yells at us when correcting him. The one time he kept getting up out of time out so I sat him back down and said if even one toe touches that floor your in your room for 30 minutes he looks me dead in the face flicks his shoe off points his big toe and touches it on the floor. I could’ve put my hands on him in that moment truly I just grabbed him up has he threw his body around and I put him in his room. I know he knows better but he just doesn’t give AF and his mom has stopped trying.