Marital advice for male
Salam team.
I did something I shouldn’t, I created a social media account behind my wife’s back. She’s originally from Iraq with no western background so she doesn’t have the same cultural experience. I grew up here in the west so ive made life long friends, some female who are great people - doctors etc it’s hard for me to adjust to a eastern lifestyle it’s only been 3-4 years of marriage
She found out today after a couple months, I know im in the wrong. I’ve broken her trust once again. But I’ve never meant to hurt her, I’m a good husband and a loving father. I’ve not once tried to make any connection with anyone, all my friends know I’m married with kids. I just occasionally post my kids on my instagram story. Im not constantly on it either. I use it for university project groups as not much people use WhatsApp or facebook.
I don’t know what to do, I was just physically attacked for trying to find the right answer to justify myself. What should I do to rectify my situation with the obvious deleting the Instagram account.
Just mentally had enough. I’ve provided everything she’s ever asked for. I’m almost at the brink of everything. I can’t take the chained up feeling of having to ask her permission to do something I know should be fine. I’m always the one to apologise, always the one to say sorry. I’ve never heard her once say it, she always says she’s perfect. I sometimes cry just to get her attention and seriousness on matters. She has the capacity to completely ignore me for days on end.
I love her so much but sometimes I feel inferior to her because I’m a person who has grown up in the west with minimal religious beliefs and proper religious education that’s implemented on a daily basis. I grew up in all mixed schools since the age of 4 it’s been a very normal part of my life.