My mother has lied to me about my father and been awful to me my whole pregnancy
This is a long story, but basically my mother has been awful to me my entire pregnancy. Ever since I originally told her, her response was “not to get too excited” or “dont get my hopes up”, before promptly telling every person in my family before I was ready. Its the first grandchild in our family and I was really looking forward to telling my nan that she would become a great grand mother and my sisters they would be aunties. Every-time I tried to bring this up she turned it against me. Since then, she has called me fat, made numerous comments about not only mine but also my husbands appearance. Comments about our finances and life that are just so unwelcome. She has become so emotionally reactive that on multiple occasions has yelled and sworn at me and even threw the phone at a wall whilst I was talking to her. She then denies any wrong doing and tried to just move on. I generally feel bad for her and so I let it go and then it gets swept under the rug. I am two days from my due date and have been talking to her more than usual when I caught her in a really intense lie. She has maintained my entire life that my father wasnt present for my birth, this isnt a one off comment this is a long standing narrative that has formed part of my identity. She uses this fact as an example of how he was a bad parent and didnt care for me very much. Because this was told to me so young I never questioned it. But then this week because we are talking about birth she let slip that he was there. When I asked her about it, first she denied ever saying it, then started gaslighting my memory and then changed the conversation to be about how my father abandoned us. I asked my dad and he said he was there. I feel so betrayed. Im weirdly calm about it but I think I need to cut her off and I am wondering how I do that. Shes also telling everyone in our family that its me thats this huge family and turning people against me. My sister is currently no contact with her and I think I need to do that too even though its pretty heart breaking timing.